Are you tired of working a job that makes you miserable? I can relate. I had been working for a major university for many years and wasn't finding the job that made me really want to come to work every day. I had glimpses of it from time to time but it never stayed that way. Then after years of searching, learning and applying my various skills I found it. I was no longer just working a job, I had a career! I was excited about coming up with new ideas, pitching new marketing strategies, coming up with new designs. I was learning from a group of amazing mentors who kept my creativity flowing and reaching. I received 2 promotions (title and pay) within the span of 1 year. Practically unheard of in such an economically hard time. But, as has happened time and again, things began to change for the not so better.
Policies started changing, people left jobs and moved on, new people came in who didn't know how to manage groups in a positive direction. I wasn't happy any more. So, I was back to just working a job. I didn't know where to turn...and I began to feel sick. I thought it was nothing but a little stress in the beginning but it soon spiraled out of my control. So by the time the most awful happened (our director was terminated unjustly), I was dealing with a debilitating chronic illness.
I was shocked and outraged. How could all of this be happening to me NOW? Well...let's break it down:
- I'm feeling great in a career I love...I'm going places.
- Things start to happen that I allowed myself to feel crummy about. I was angry and fearful about the future.
- I start to feel sick.
- Situations worsen and I continued to allow myself to feel angry and fearful.
- Bam! Chronic illness arrives.
This is the biggy. How we feel can tell us what we are going to attract into our lives. Yes, things are going to happen around us that are not always positive. But how we react to it is completely within our control. And the more we practice staying within the positive the less negative that we will see around us. Negativity cannot survive around those with an enlightened state of being. The term misery loves company is absolutely true. It needs other negative emotions to feed off of. If you don't give it any negativity, if you don't help feed it, it withers into nothing.
So what should I have done? Looking back there were numerous cases of me allowing my anger to get the best of me. I fumed to myself about this person or that person. I joined in on the office gossip and complained until I was blue in the face. I let what a small group of others were doing to directly affect my present. I fed the negativity. And in the end I lost. I lost my career. I lost my health.
For those of you who have followed the Law of Attraction (LOA) you're probably saying, 'Well that's just a shocker'! Well, for me in that moment it was. I could have chosen a different route. I could have continued to network with my mentors, meditated to help keep my inner peace intact, sought advice from those I trusted, listened to my instincts and moved in the direction that FELT better to me. But I didn't. Lesson learned.
But that certainly isn't the end of my story. I'm back in the game with new knowledge. I look at things around me differently. I catch the negativity trying to creep in earlier and actively squash it under my foot like the nasty little bug it is. My ideas of what I want have changed and I'm moving in the direction that feels good. So my spark is returning and because I'm making these choices my life is turning once again into the feel good, joyful, happy to be here place that I've been missing.
So what should you do if you find yourself in a similar situation? Here are a few tips to put you back onto the positive, joyful path you deserve to be on (so this is the part where I am waving my magick wand directly over your head to impart my lessons into your being):
- Acknowledge that you are beautifully imperfect. Having a negative emotion does not mean that it will immediately manifest something horrible in your life. You have to give it momentum (aka your continued attention and thoughts) to allow it to creep into your reality.
- Make a feel good list. Do this today. Make a list of all the things that make you feel good. A place, memory, vacation trip, family, friend, music, meditation, yoga, a hobby. Anything that makes you feel good. Then figure out how you can utilize one or many of these at any time or place. Keep your iPod on you at all times, carry pictures or affirmations in your purse or wallet. Take a minute to do some deep breathing. Just figure it out and start putting these into practice every time you feel a negative emotion creeping in. Don't give it the momentum.
- Regroup. Look at the situation/thing/person from an outsiders point of view. Is there something you might have overlooked? Are there other options you didn't try? Have you considered the side of the other person and what they are experiencing? What would happen if you simply refused to add to the negativity of what appears to be going on? There are always options; what you need to do is find out which feels good to you (or in some cases what feels the least bad) and head in that direction.
- Pay attention to how you are feeling as the situation progresses. Change tactics in order to keep yourself moving in a good feeling place. Do you need to talk to a manager or HR, do you need to seek some advice, maybe have a group discussion to find out what is at the heart of the matter, or maybe you need to consider a new job or complete change of career. All of these ideas are options.
- Never settle. Life is not meant to be something you just settle for. If you aren't living in joy, you aren't living within the LOA. Keep searching, keep digging, keep exploring. You will find your way.
Blessed Be!
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